Thursday, October 2, 2008

Farnsworth Bentely I applaud you!

I've thought of a million ways to write a post to explain the differences in being a woman and a lady. I found music that I thought would coincide with how I felt, the draft was started and then this morning I heard the most disturbing conversation between a teen girl and a teen boy.
First I must speak on the teen:

Teen girl had on jeans two sizes too small, a cropped sweater and a Ed hardy t-shirt also too small ( I figure if you are going to pay that kind of money for a t-shirt it should fit) . She had no bookbag, but a fake Kate Spade bag.

Teen boy had on a white t-shirt, TIGHT jeans (or tightus as I call it), do-rag and a Gucci fanny pack. Not near book or bookbag in sight, but he had his damn sidekick.

SO why the designer bags, whether fake or real? This generation of teens has absolutely no guidance, no one to explain that no matter how cute you think you are, YOU NEED AN EDUCATION or guess what you become a negative statistic. All they care about is having money or looking like they have money, but that does not negate the fact that you are falling into the trap that views our community negatively.

If the rumors are true that Beyonce never received her H.S diploma, guess what? she is part of tht statistic that 3.8 million young adults have not completed their high school program or some equivalent. All the money in the world does not do away with that, until you get your diploma. Do these kids care? nope, not one bit because she is rich.

Jamie Lynn Spears, the fact that you are 16 and pregnant makes you a part of another negative statistic, Teen pregnancy. I don't care how many Nickelodeon shows you are on, or who your sister is, you are part of the teen pregnancy epidemic, PERIOD. but again does this generation as a whole care, Nope.

ok now for the conversation:

TG: Do you have a girlfriend now?
TB: No I'm just 'effin a bunch of girls
TG: what about marcia?
TB: Girl I'm over her, she couldn't handle me, I'm not a man but a gentleman*
TG: Oh ok (she wasn't buying it either)
TB: I was talking to one girl and YO she was a the best we were both freaks.
{the bus driver and I cracked up laughing}
TG: What girl?
TB: coutrney, she is a freak (details followed but I refuse to type them).
TG: But she's so young!
{HOLD On how old can this girl be, these kids are about 17 themselves}
TG: Really how do you know?
TB: We had a private conversation and she told me. She's having an abortion anyway. But I am so over all of these pregnant young girls.
{Me: Uhm well its private no more as the girls business is all in the street}
TB: Oooohhh a seat, I'm gonna sit and you can stand over me.

In true F$%K it list fashion I gave the girl my seat, and said you never stand over any man while he sits down. She looked confused but she took the seat.

This conversation was littered with pure foolishness, but let's focus on the line marked with an*( #4). I'm not a man, but a gentleman No dear you are a gossiping Yenta. I get that he is a teenager but about 95% of his conversation was inappropriate, especially for a crowded bus.

Somewhere along the way men stopped teaching their little boys to be men. More importantly gentlemen. Now I understand the need for a G's to Gent show, maybe not in that exact show format. But I get it now. This teenage boy had no idea what it meant to be a gentlemen and these teen girls also don't know any better so they think this BS is acceptable. As the parents of son how should I feel other than annoyed.

Don't get me wrong, I've met some kick ass teenagers that make me put away my copy of Assata because I feel confident in what is going to happen with future generations. These kids just were not the ones.


The Jaded NYer said...

OMG- I lost it at the Gorriping Yenta part...

I am so done with the conversations I hear on the trains these days from teens. And not to be an old lady or anything, when I was that age YES I was loud on the bus, too, but guaranteed you never heard anything worse than the F-word come out of my mouth... sigh... kids today...

Eb the Celeb said...

The main reason that men grow up knowing absolutely nothing about chivalry... it sucks!

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) said...

took the words right outta my mouth. so many men-children have had no guidance regarding HOW TO BE. its so sad :-(

but that hot-tailed little girl is just as off...i wish lil pCD would. i'll just leave it at that. i don't play

The F$%K it List said...

@Jaded I call every man I know a yenta, hahah. You didnt know I spoke hebrew? LOL

@Eb you are so right and that is why CJ better not step out of line

@PCD It really is so sad. I saw this boy again this morning. And yes this girl was a mess, how are you going to follow a boy thw won't even offer you his seat ILK!

Ms. Jones said...

I see teenagers all the time who think that their behavior is the "norm" and when you try to tell them different they look at you like you're crazy. It's disappointing to say the least because they really don't know their worth...

CurvyGurl said...

I totally agree with you. I pulled up to my parking space a couple of hours ago and a young chick (no older than 20 or so) was walking in the dark with a little boy (no more than 3 years old). You would think she'd grab his hand and move out the way. Nope! I proceed to fuss in the car about how irresponsible young folks are. I knew I was getting old when I started saying "I just don't understand young people these days". They just don't get it. But, like you said, there are some that do the doggone thang like they're supposed to.

The Flyyest said...

Ok that convo was all wrong!!! I probably woulda gave them a "shut the fuck " look!!! I know one thing....he sure aint no gentleman bragging about his freakness ON THE BUS tho....