Monday, January 11, 2010

And the Winner(s) Are

1. GTFOH Awards (2 votes)
2. Allow me 5 minutes on my soapbox(2 votes, even though Smarty cheated)
3. Tainted Music (1 vote)
4. Behold a Lady (1 vote )
3 and 4 will be done in the order that they come to me, but they are both equally as important.

But before I start I need to get this off my chest:

As you all know my 35th Birthday is Tuesday, YES 3-mother-fing 5 SON! and well I've been thinking about friendships. In the last 3 years I've been blessed to increase my circle of trust by adding new friends and equally as blessed to shed some dead weight friendships, for that I am thankful. I've also learned that it does not matter how many years we've known each other it really just matters what we put into the friendship at the time.

I had a conversation with one of my girls recently and I realized that even though its been months since we've seen each other, this chick is RIDE OR DIE and I love her for that. We started chatting about friendships and we both agree so many women these days have no clue what that term even means.

It doesn't mean that I'm going to take sides when something goes wrong, it means that if we are friends, you don't have to wonder. But if you do, open your damn mouth and ask!

It doesn't mean that you if you are going through some sh$t you have to be the right to be a shitty to me and not expect me to check you on it. 

It doesn't mean that you should EVER be in Competition with me.

But it does mean:

That if you are going through some sh$T and you call me I'm going to drop EVERYTHING to make sure you're alright. AND I EXPECT the same from you.

There is NOT a  NO Speaking rule, take your time get yourself together and I will too but in the end if we are real friends I'm gonna call you even if you don't call me.

So many women lose track of what it means to be a real friend for one reason or another, whether it be a man, work, depression but if you treat your friends properly the chance of you being down and out about any of those things become slimmer.

I had a harder than usual 4 months at the end of 2009 but I didn't bitch and moan I spoke to friends. And through my real friends, the ones that know every detail I've gotten stronger. I know the people I trusted to share with are not running around chatting behind my back, I also know that some of them are armed and ready to take down the people that wronged me. That's what a ride or die will do.

*rant over*


Smarty Jones said...

*cue music* I need a ride or die chick ...

*applause* This needs to be said to women everywhere. I'm gonna rent you a soapbox and we're gonna cut into "106th and Park" so a lot of folks can hear it, but mainly so I can annoy the shit outta BET like they do me.

Reina said...


I have a lot of females in my life, but only a few that are my "Ride or Die chicks." And I would do anything, have done anything for them. It's that deep.

The Jaded NYer said...

YES and YES on this post.

*hugs you for being a friend*

Tyrone said...

35...I can't wait til I'm that old.

Oh wait, it's 5 weeks away. *kicks rocks*

The F$%K it List said...

@Smarty Yeah girl this conversation got deep.

@Reina Exactly. and it has to be that deep friendships are serious business.

@Jaded *hugs you right back* You know I'd swing my machete in your honor anytime.

@Tyrone God don't like ugly SIR!

ShellyShell said...

Good Post! Last year I lost a couple of "friendships." But my true friends rode with me. I think that's life. A lot of women don't know what it takes to be a true friend. Me and my bf have had a lot of ups and downs but when I need that beyatch she's there..ready to bust ass or just listen. For that I love her!

IntrospectiveGoddess said...

I definetly agree with all that was said, right or wrong I'm down for my friends I really only have two that I would go to bat for no matter the situation, but really thats all I need cuz they always have my back....

Its good you have friends like that too!