Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Vacation is done...

I know you missed me, I missed ya'll too but a sister needed a break. Blogging started to feel more like an obligation rather than something I do for fun. While I was on break I had some good laughs with good friends and added some new folks to my circle of trust (and chucked some others, no time for fake ones) I wish I could say it was all fun and games wrapped in drunken nights, and hangover cure days but it wasn't.

I also lost one of the most important men in my life! On June 22nd my mother called to inform me that he passed away. I'm not ready to divulge it all right now. But I will say this, for every ounce of grief  my father's absence could have caused Robert "El Bay" Daily added a gallon of relief and happiness. Not all men are strong enough to deal with the women of the Davenport clan but he never wavered and that in itself made him an amazing person. His funeral was awful, filled with anger, resentment and jealous and it disturbed me to my core but I know that Bob knew the truth and right now he's in a better place, hurting no more.

It's going to take a very long time for those of us that truly loved you to stop missing you, stop wanting to see you, and hear your voice but as C.J so eloquently put it "You're in Jesus' house now so Mommy don't be sad". You were a shining light and a true gentleman.

Bob we loved you, and will always LOVE You!

I thought about doing a really heartfelt post, but it's all still a little raw for me right now, and honestly Bob wouldn't want me to make you cry so I won't. I'll simply post a cartoon that a dear friend sent me after sharing the story of losing his dad.

This meant the world to me and I'll never forget it.

Reina Song thank you for inspiring me to write this, you told your story it helped me do the same.
Smartys World Thank you for being bossy and telling me to write.  Not to mention checking in on me every day.
Dee Dee and The Jaded Nyer Thank you both for being such good friends.


The Jaded NYer said...

You & Reina are killing me today with the grief... y'all know I don't handle death well.

Now I gotta call Papi and make sure he's OK before I spazz out on life!!

(Glad I could be there for you, since you've pretty much been my ear, anchor, etc on MANY days)

Bangs and a Bun said...

So sorry for your loss. *big hug*

Reina said...

Aww, Sweetie. My condolences again to you and your family. I'm glad we can be there for each other because I have surely appreciated each of you reaching out to me.

I lost my father years ago, but I still remember how painful it was.

Thank you for sharing this, and I hope the pain lessens and the happy memories begin.

dejanae said...

my condolences hon
im bad at this stuff so ima leave you with this
"take with you the memories to be your sunshine after the rain"

Smarty P. Jones said...

This is late, but you know I'd never forget you. I'm glad you found the courage to write this out and to post it.
You know how much Bob meant to you and to your mother and I'm sure he knew as well. Just be there to support your mom the way that you've been doing and you all will get through this as a family.
I'm always here just a call, BBM or IM away. *hugs*

Dee said...

...always here.