Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Just a rant.....

I think I chose my friends carefully, I don't let just any and everyone into my life. Sure I'm happy, fun, flirty and talkative but I know how to limit what information I share. In the last few weeks I've been re-evaluating some of the people I've let into my circle based on drama factor and made the decision to pull back a little. When I say pull back, I don't mean I'm just straight up iggin' people (I'm not that rude) but I do mean that casual conversation is limited, and I may or may not answer your call depending on how I feel (and I almost always answer). I also planned on re-evaluating my decision if the craziness that surrounded these people eased off. This group of people aren't ones I've shared a lot with, never been to their homes, or hung out all the time, they are friends that I know from different circles. I am fine with the decision to limit how and when I speak to these people, but apparently some of them have issues with that.

Yesterday one of the guys I pulled back from reached out to me, but instead of outright asking me what was up, he tried to manipulate me into telling him why I was in his words "so unhappy".  The things that were thrown at me prior to this question were unfounded and without truth so by the time we actually got to the question I was furious. I won't go into the details of the failed manipulation, but I will say that friendships whether grand or small should not be used as a weapon. I guess this person (now I'm finding out) is so use to people being afraid of him that he thought the same of me, well clearly he is was never real friend of mine, because beside God and the Devil (and the occasional small person) I don't fear people just because. I let the person know that it's not all the other false accusations that he was worried about, just that I have barely said two words in the last two weeks, I don't have to explain myself but he has to respect my decision and I left it at that.

I know I'm a good friend. And those that are in my most inner circle from youth to this phase in my life know that. But the same way I treat you, I expect back and with this persons behavior yesterday I've decided not to only pull back but to close the door forever. I've see his true colors and that's enough for me.



4 comments:

Irene said...

Mmm, you speak the truth sista. Soemtimes you just gotta let people go.

Dee said...

Snip snip, chile, you know I co-sign cutting off fools. Life is too short to surround yourself with shady peeps and folks who do not add fun and meaning to your life. Besides, you are your friends, so they say, so if the friends are shade, you are too, by extension.

Tyrone said...

Agreed. Instead of trying to elicit a response the way he did, why not just come out and ask like an adult? People kill me. If he's intimidated, he could have prefaced the whole thing in an appropriate manner.

Stay strong, and do what you gotta.

Smarty P. Jones said...

Chile, I have this opinion that our the people in our lives are either seasonal or permanent. The problem we run into is trying to put seasonal people into permanent roles. It just doesn't work.
If he wants to know, the season of your friendship is over. *shrug*