Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Beating a dead horse

Lately I've been unmotivated, I don't want to write and I feel not one bit of guilt about it. Some might say oh you just need to take a break and their right but it's not from blogging, it's from reading blogs. Why? Because every blog is talking about the same thing, and though the take on it is slightly different it's still all the same things. Here are just a few that have just taken me over the edge:

1. Black women have issues and that's why they are not married. YES we get it there is a sect of Black women that have issues and can't seem to stay in a healthy relationship. Well what is the fix for this? Is it 10 gazillion angry Black men writing blogs about why they don't date Black women? NO. That just reinforces the negativity and that doesn't help anyone grow. It just leaves everyone stuck. And I'm here to tell you this is not a Black women's issue. This weekend I witness a white woman basically begging her long term boyfriend to at least propose to her. She told him "if you can afford to take me to Aruba, then you can afford my ring" O_o

2. Natural vs. Non-Natural hair  ENOUGH ALREADY! WE get it you've made the big chop, your hair is chemical free and you love it. GOOD FOR YOU! But do you need to talk about it every single solitary moment of the day? NO. And do you need to bash your sisters that chose to keep their hair permed? NO! Your Natural hair makes you no more down for the uplifting of Black people than the girl with the perm (maybe the girl with the $30 lace front, but that's another story). So cut it out. Love who you are inside and out because one day you could lose all that natural hair and then what?

3. Dark skin vs. Light skin What the hell year is this? it's not 1955 and if someone dares to ask you to take the brown paper bag test, slap the shit out of them and move one. I'm just tired of it all. I thought we were past the light skin, ,long hair times. Like who you like but stop comparing and degrading others. It's fine that you like a light skin chick but you don't need to wear a shirt broadcasting it. And it's fine or a dark skin woman to think she is the shit! Because it probably has nothing to do with her skin complexion but her achievements in life.. Ever think about that? So just cut it out.

4. ALL of you women, stop talking about how independent you are. Independence comes with security so it you're tweeting, posting and blasting Independent women in your car ALL THE TIME, Chances are you ain't that independent.  So let's stop fronting, cause there's no future in it. This goes for single and married women.

Oh I could go on and on but I won't because this will turn into a book.  All in all this comes down to knowing who you are, loving who you are and not worrying about what others think about you. It works for me.


The True Urban Queen said...

Let me begin by saying, What is wrong with lace front? is it the wearing wigs or just that type of wig? Those are wigs? Don't white women wear those too?
Someone need to explain it to me. I is so confused.


I don't read blogs with black men belittling black women and vice versa. So, pointless. I also follow enough women to know that women of all races are seeking relationships, having problems, or live in bliss. It's not a color thang it is a love/respect thang.

I think if someone wants to go natural or permed who really cares. To each their own.
But, I have seen the debate and the belittling especially on Twitter.

Wait, Why can't a dark woman think she is fine because her skin is flawless, her face beautiful and a light woman think she is fine because of accomplishments? Huh? Huh?

Anyway, I try not to get caught up in the dark skin vs light skin because it is the most stupid debate and is one more way we divide ourselves. I can think I am pretty not because of my skin but because I am and I refuse to let anyone tear down my self-esteem and tell me otherwise (the life I lived tells me I deserve to feel this way) and I encourage every woman (regardless of color) to feel the same.

Not sure if I talk about my independence much. . my being crazy yes. .

Keith said...

Hey Gurlll, I aint writin about none of that...You should stop by...I been talkin bout all kinds of stuff..Weiner's Weiner...My recent 22nd anniversary,Jokes, Randomisity...all kinds of different stuff..I'm keepin it 100 just cause I know you might stop by and check me out again! Love ya!

Smarty P. Jones said...

Did you just tell us all to STFU? Cause I think I'm offended. LoL!

The F$%K it List said...

@True Urban Queen I'm LMAO at this comment. You know what I mean about the dark vs. light skin issue.

@Keith I'm stopping by.

@Smarty O_o Yeah I did tell everyone to drink that glass of STFU and move on. did you expect less of me?