Friday, July 29, 2011

Just for giggles

I swear my friends are nuts, no one believes me but here is the proof! 

ME: let me put alvin ailey down so I dont forget that too!

The JadedNyer: you will def cry if you miss that

ME: like a baby! even though I can watch it anytime I want. and act it out in my living room
is it me or was this years concert series just BLAH like Jagged Edge, who wants to see them

The JadedNyer: yeah, there was nothing there that excited me. Saved me a 4-hr wait in line, though LOL

ME: but we didn't get to see the dudes in the park, that's our summer thing. DAMN this depression!
This needs to be fixed so that I can get my free concert on and the rappers can get their jew-els!

The JadedNyerl: lol

ME: I blame ALL republicans and Tea party members for my lack of good free shows.

The JadedNyer: funny, I was going to blame Obama O_o

ME: NO why you always harping on the Black MAN?!

The JadedNyer:  LMAO!

ME: We're all African Jaded! it ain't right

The JadedNyer: Not me; I'm european. Can't you see my fair skin, light eyes and fine hair? SAY YES!!!

ME: let me save this IM so when you're ready to come back to this side I can say OH REMEMBER THIS SUCKA

The JadedNyer: LMAO!!!

ME: I should just blog it. mmmhhmmm

* and there you have it, the nutter butters that make my world better* LOL

Friday, July 22, 2011

My newest Obsession

Now that I've watched every single Criminal Minds two or more times it was time to let that obsession go *looks over shoulder at suspicious dude in hood*. All the lessons they've given me are greatly appreciated but its summer now and it's time for some fun... Enter my new obsession: FLASH MOBS!

It all started with this funny commercial:

and well you know I tweeted about it and quickly realized I'm not the only one going all crazy for a flash mob!  And one of my followers sent me the link for the Toronto flash mob she was in, I was so excited and watched several you tube videos. Like this one:

aww they are so cute. Don't watch past 0:42, this guy is just a weirdo.
I saw some awful ones too, they all seemed to involve dancing to Lady Gaga in Europe.No thanks.


So now I'm back into them and I even know where I want it to take place.. HOME DEPOT! I mean what better place, it's just wide open space where you can get to twerking it! I know if I get it together that my girl @SpicyOriginal will be there, even though she wants to do it at a Dollar Tree. I don't know about that Dollar tree always smells funny, LOL!

Anyway if you can't find me I'm off choreographing for my flash mob attack on NYC! If you're in, hit me in the comment section!

Now someone find me a camera man and some booming speakers.

Thursday, July 21, 2011


The Fifth Chakra (Vishuddha) is the chakra that holds our personal development in both expression and in listening.Vishuddha is located in the throat, near the thyroid gland. It is the chakra of communication, expression and judgment.  This Chakra, governs life lessons of self expression and speaking one’s truth, creativity (especially writing or speaking) faith, and making decisions and will power. On the flip side, issues of addiction, the need to criticize, lack of authority, and indecisiveness. Information stored in the Fifth Chakra includes self-knowledge and truth, attitudes, and the senses of hearing, taste, and smell. An imbalance in the Throat Chakra can be felt as difficulty in self expression, poor learning ability, habitual lying, fear, doubt, and uncertainty.

Interestingly enough the deity for this centre is Shri Krishna. He represents God in His aspect as the Eternal Witness. For those of you that really know me You understand why this is interesting. :) 

This was by far the easiest of all the  address, because I've been comfortable with who I am and able to speak my truths for such a long time. And though some look at my honesty and ability to look at a situation, make a decision and move on with my life as me being a hard ass, it's not. It's me being comfortable enough with myself and the decisions that I make.  A friend of mine was laughing when I talked to her about this post because she said really all I needed to write was "You either like me or you don't and either way that's your problem because I'm good with being me" It's simple but very true. 

I can't sit here and pretend that my being comfortable with myself was just the way I was born, it took years.  I think my shy nature lead to me being a better listener and in turn a better judge of character. Those two things have always been my strong suit and in turn a lot of people come to me for advice. I guess that's where the speaking part come in. 

Also having a family tree full of women that stand as tall as any oak in Central Park. Which in turn made me do the same. My Nana,Aunts and Mother are dynamic ladies, with strong personalities and big mouths, LOL . Their lives and struggles so we could have better than they did, taught me to be happy with my life no matter the good or bad because as long as I stood in faith I'd be okay. That advice hasn't failed me yet. 

I guess the side of being this person that always gets me in trouble is that I don't remember that everyone didn't grow up with the same foundation. I'm working on that though because in my next career I will need to be able to advise and not seem as if I'm passing judgement. I don't think I'm very judgemental now but sometimes my no nonsense attitude might seem that way. 

Another interesting fact about this Chakra is that it the first to deal with both the earthly and spiritual worlds. Makes sense that being comfortable with how God made you let's you commune with the spiritual world easier. Hmm. 

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

City Girl gone wild

As most of you know I've moved from my beloved Brooklyn to the 'burbs. I knew I'd like owning my own home but I actually love being out here. Sure there are times I miss the creature comforts of  Brooklyn like the bodegas, late night restaurants, Public transportation, reliable cabs but I don't think I'd trade my new digs for any of that. When we decided to buy out here the one thing I said I wanted no parts of was the nature, all these trees, grass and pollen. NO THANK YOU! I made it a point to have the ugly rose bush pulled out because it was going to need work and time I had no plans on giving it! And then it snowed, A LOT!

 and well I forgot all about that plot of land under the bay window. Spring never actually sprung here and all of a sudden it was warm and our house wasn't very pleasing to the eye because it looked like a graveyard. Just dirt and nothing else. I was sad! I thought our gardener would have some ideas but well he barely spoke english and had a hard enough time doing what I asked (bad business). There was no way I was doing it. Look let's be honest if there was a contest and you had to pick two words that would never be associated with me, they'd be DIRT and GARDENING. I don't even really like flowers. So imagine the shock on my husbands face when I said I was going to give it a go. He didn't believe me but as it go closer to CJ'sbirthday I told him I was going to do it! My sister took me to a nursery and I picked out all these lovely flowers:

I'm not ashamed to say that once I picked all the flowers I got real nervous and considered leaving them right in that window! I had to really psych myself up because I had no idea how to really plant flowers. My friend LaKeisha was like what? K you, dig hole, put plant in, water, grow. It can't be that easy is all I thought. I was ready though, so I went out and tackled the grave:

Two hours later I managed to dig out all the roots of that blasted devil rose bush (I hate them) and started planting. and then we had this:
Yeah they are in the ground.
We had some casualties, the Dahlia's didn't make it because they needed to be in the ground by April but the rest of the little one are doing great. Saturday morning I got up planted more lovelies and added some red mulch so now it looks like this:
Still have some work to do, I want a Japanese fern and maybe some more full sun perennials.It may not seem like a big deal to some but for me its HUGE! I never thought I'd utter the words I love gardening but I do. So many reasons but the main one is because it's all mine, no one wants to help and I'm fine with that. I get to listen to music and just relax. YEAH for a new hobby! .

Tuesday, July 19, 2011


clo·sure  (klzhr)
1. The act of closing or the state of being closed: closure of an incision.
2. Something that closes or shuts.
3.a. A bringing to an end; a conclusion: finally brought the project to closure.
b. A feeling of finality or resolution, especially after a traumatic experience.

In the last few weeks I've had  discussions with friends about Closure. A word that I've heard thrown around over and over again in regards to relationships and I get it but I don't agree with it.

With each conversations I realized my friends had abrupt and hurtful ends to relationships. And they all  wanted to know why. I'm not sure if its a "was it me kind" of need but its a want that I feel could only lead to only one thing, feeling worse. Its just like in "A Few Good Men" when Jack Nicholson screams "you want the truth, you can't handle the truth", knowing the truth of why a relationship didn't last won't ever turn out well. When you seek closure on hurt feelings, heartbreak whatever from someone else you're looking for that person to validate your feelings in some way.

Instead a better approach at seeking closure is to look inward. What did you learn about yourself in this relationship? When evaluating the relationship, what changes would you make so that YOU are better for the next man/woman. From the worst relationship to the storybook romance derailed, there is a lesson to be learned and if you're ever to gain a better sense of self you have to pay attention. 

In a conversation with one of my friends I told her we all go through this and its that struggle that leads to a better you. Look for closure from within because in the grand scheme of life it  means a hell of a lot more than from someone else.

Friday, July 15, 2011

Coming from where I'm from

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
                                                                            Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, is beautiful Brooklyn
Long as I live here believe I'm on fire 
 Cuz it's the B-the-R-the-O-the-O-KL-Y-N is the place where I stay
The B-the-R-the-O-the-O-K Best in the world and all USA --- Mos Def.

This weekend I will be in Brooklyn for Brooklyn Bodega, and so what better way to celebrate than to showcase the place that made me!  No matter where I live, whether it's Long Island or Timbuktu I'll always be from the greatest city in the world.... BROOKLYN! 

Picture courtesy of one of Brooklyn's Finest, Tauri!
Brooklyn fun fact: Brooklyn was the only borough that had doubts about joining NYC, and had several conditions that had to be met, if Brooklyn was to become a willing part of NYC.

Hopefully I can get good pictures of at this festival.

Thursday, July 14, 2011


Located in the heart, the fourth Chakra deals with love. It is ultimately blocked by grief. It is symbolized by a lotus flower with twelve petals, twelve add up and reduced to three, three represents the relationship between Wisdom, Power and Love. A powerful way to energize this chakra is to love ourselves and others.  
An Unbalanced chakra causes: Physical problems- thoracic spine, upper back and shoulder problems, asthma, heart conditions, shallow breathing, lung disease like pneumonia. Psychological and Emotional problems - difficulty with love, lack of hope, compassion, 
confidence, despair, moody, envy, fear, jealousy, anger and anxiety.

I don't want to go into too much detail on this one because I've talked about it more than once on this blog.  The loss of family member is hard enough without reliving it over and over again but in an effort to cleanse my 4th Chakra, I had to sit myself down and just let go of the pain.  It still creeps up now and then but letting go of the pain doesn't mean letting go of the person. 

This morning as I waiting for my car to pick me up I started thinking about Bob, and I smiled because if he were here he'd be so proud of my accomplishments in the last year. He's also be giving me a lecture about taxes and all the mess that's going on in D.C. I actually laughed for the first time thinking about him. Right then the car pulled up and I walked out my house to be greeted by a man that not only favored Bob strongly, but spoke and laughed like Bob. I was in shock, he asked about CJ which means he had to have driven us to the train before and I answered quietly,  trying to hold back my tears.  Then he started talking about politics... I couldn't do anything but smile even with the tears in my eyes.  I chatted with the driver and even sat in his car for a few minutes at the station until my train pulled in. When I got out I thanked him for the ride and as he drove away I could hear him singing a Temptation song that was playing on the radio... or maybe that was Bob. All I know is I felt a whole lot of joy as I stepped on the train to work. 

I tell this story to relay that though I've felt a great loss, the energy that is love is born and can be seen in so many things (and people).  My family may have lost a person but the love he had for us and we for him is all around us and will never leave. Only be reborn in the form of new love. 

*this journey to a becoming a greater part of the universe is no joke* 

Sunday, July 10, 2011

He's one year older I'm one year wiser

Today's the day, C.J is five years old! I can go on and on about how much I love him and how great a kid is he is because well he is. Smart, funny, witty at times. He's also a smart ass, cranky as all hell and sometimes I just want to pull my hair out and run away (and y'all know how I love my hair) but I wouldn't trade any of it, I love you C.J and wish you the happiest of HAPPY Birthday!

From this to....
to this.5yrs old

Thursday, July 7, 2011


Located at the center of the body it is the place where physical energy is distributed. It is the center for unrefined emotions and personal power.  It is the center that give us the sense of complete satisfaction and contentment.  Our creativity is fueled by our power of will and is blocked by shame.

So a few post back I started documenting my journey to a cleansing my Chakras, it got a little too personal for my liking and so I didn't post the others. But after having a conversation with a friend (*winks*) I thought well maybe it's a good idea to share my journey so others can be encouraged to do the same. 

You can find my find how I cleared my first two chakras here and here

This one was particularly hard for so many reasons but mainly because I don't want to look weak. I've worked hard to work through the issues I had and admitting to being ashamed of something spit in the face of all that. But alas if I'm to reach a greater plain of wisdom I have to own up to all of it.  My shame deals with my father, Yes that mystery man I don't talk to, talk about and at this point in my life doesn't really exist. 

Last year when I started this journey my uncle called to tell me his brother's wife passed away. I thought oh that's sad but why is he telling me I don't know this man (notice I did  not call him my uncle).  After the funeral my uncle revealed to me a part of me that I believed I locked deep away, the need to know more about THAT side of my family. Not necessarily about my dad because I've dealt with my feelings about him as a person but the tons of cousins I now know I have.  I spoke with my uncle for 2hrs and my mind was blown away by how awesome my cousins are (not as awesome as my sisters and I but yeah you know!). I guess in my mind because they were Davenports and not US so they were probably just as trifling as their parents and my father, but that's not the case at all. 

So though I have moved on and forgiven my father and I know there is no way for me to change the past, I can look towards the future and be happy. Happy knowing there is some good attached to our family name and it is reflected in the youth. As for the message my uncle came back with from my father, *shrugs*All the niceness is long overdue it's his burden to bear and though forgiven...well you know the rest.  Here's to connecting with some of my relatives this summer, hopefully we can make this happen.