Monday, November 7, 2011

Losing Focus

This week my mind has been everywhere and nowhere all at the same time. I've been incredibly unfocused and if you know me you know that's not a good thing.

  • I've been focusing on the future of this blog. The content, strong opinions and how to tie it all together.
  • I've been focusing on my career and how to make a strategic move that has become NECESSARY!
  • I've been focusing on my family. 
  • And lastly I've been focusing on C.J and making sure he stays ahead of the other kids in school.

The only thing I haven't focused on is ME, THE individual. Not the Mom, Not the Wife, Not the Career Woman. Just plain old  ME and what makes me happy. I've been so focused on making sure everyone around me was happy and doing well I forgot that I should be happy and healthy too. So that starts today because even if it's something as simple as going to get my brows threaded I need to make sure all my wants and needs are met, or I'm no good to anyone.

I'm also going to start thinking in the now, sometimes I get caught up in the what if of life and I then if something goes wrong I freak.Clearly that goes against all my Yoga training, so it's time to own up and remember that I can't see or control the future and stop trying too. None of these revelations are new to me, it's a constant battle for me to remember that I have to put myself first.

I know a lot of my readers feel the same way, so where do you plan to start? What are you waiting for?


The Jaded NYer said...

I plan to stop volunteering myself out too much. I'm always running around and next thing you know the stuff I needed to do aren't done. I need to re-embrace the word NO.

Stacy said...

Oh you know I am right there with you! I felt like I was writing your blog today. :-) I plan to start by taking the time I need to get organized and putting a plan in writing, aka make some Excel spreadsheets. That usually makes me feel better and starts me on a good path.

MzInspiredMind81 said...

I agree w/ both the Jaded NYer and Stacy. I need to start saying "no" sometimes. As my father told me the other day "even SuperWoman has to take her cape off sometime". SO true. As Stacy talked about, I am the queen of lists and writing things out making plans. All of that WILL start TODAY. *speaking it into existence*

The F$%K it List said...

@Jaded YES. I'm starting to say No more and more. Black was none to happy when I told him I wouldn't sit through something yesterday but I felt awesome.

@Stacy and Mzinspired Both of you are Capricorns, it's in our nature to create list and make plans. That's why I'm so confused at why I'm in this space right now. Oh well we shall see what happens in the next few weeks.

Sharon said...

I learned a few years ago that I must focus on myself to avoid dying unhappy. I won't post a blog here but, all my life I have been the one to care for others. Being the oldest child and not having our mother, I took on the role for my sister and brother. To this day I am who they call for advice and other things. Then I got married young without doing what I wanted. I had to care for my husband who picked up addictions, my children, my father got sick, my ex's mother got sick. I took care of my ex's mother for the last 6 weeks of her life. It was mentally straining. After my father died. I was sitting in my bedroom, looking back on my life and wondering what about me and I just started crying, "please God don't let me die unhappy".
That night I made up my mind to ask for a divorce and chase my own dreams. It has not been easy, I have two others to worry about but, I know I will never forget about me again.

Oh and I am a list person. . .I even carry a notebook in my purse :)

12kyle said...

Loved this post!

For me, it seems like I don't have enough time in the day. I'm so many things...father, husband, friend, youth football coach, social media mogul. I find myself needing more ME time.

Things have really changed around the crib since Skyler arrived a month ago. I'm not gonna neglect her. But I will be cutting back on some things (the blog and radio show). Grad school next year. Pray for ya boy! LoL