Monday, January 30, 2012

What are you inviting into your life?

This morning while at Yoga, the Yogi in a spooky calming voice reminded us that while in child's pose we should make an effort to "meditate on what you are inviting into your life." In all the years I've been practicing Yoga I can honestly say that it takes some time for me to get to a place where I can mediate while in class, my mind is usually very busy. This morning as the class started all I could think about was getting through the vinyasa and off to the shower so I could make it to work.

But today as we reached the fourth sequence I almost felt as if I was watching myself. I watched my body glide through the poses, my mind cleared and I could hear my inner voice. I heard the same word repeated as I reminded myself to open my heart and let in what I want in my life. At the end of class I sat in child pose and mulled over the word that had come to mind. Peace. The only energy I want to allow into my life is that of a peaceful nature. I don't think my life is filled with too much drama but there are moments when I let things so insignificant get me all riled up therefore ruining my zen. I'm going to work on letting less of that happen starting today.

I was also reminded that my practice is not only about remaining fit (in body) but furthering my connection to the universe. Let me go and re-read my chakra post.

Friday, January 27, 2012

On Monday I never go to work.

If only kids knew how easy they have it. CJ sings this song all the time and then tells me I should stay home from work. I tried explaining to him that Mommy can't just "never go to work" but it doesn't always click. But I can dream, right? 

Thanks to They Might be Giants.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012


I can honestly say I wasn't paying much attention to this SOPA and PIPA movement. Not because I thought it didn't apply to me but because  I was sure the US Government would act like there were bigger issues facing this country and FOCUS. Clearly I was wrong. In the face of double dip recession, high unemployment rates, a housing crisis and  voter suppression using  Jim Crow antics the United States Congress is choosing to focus on  Piracy. *Slaps forehead*

Today tons of sites have decided to "Blackout" their feeds so that we can see just what the world would look like without access or rather access controlled by the entertainment industry and government. This video explains it best.

Protect IP Act Breaks the Internet from Kirby Ferguson on Vimeo.

This doesn't just affect bloggers, it affects us all.
Go here to sign the petition to STOP SOPA, Fight for the Future.

Friday, January 13, 2012

Friday inspiration

This morning after Yoga I came across this video on my FB friend and Yoga mentors page. I was in awe. The fluidity in her movement, the strength in her back, legs and arm, the peacefulness. *JUMPS UP AND DOWN* 

This is why I do Yoga! It's more than just a way for me to stay fit, it's a way for me to connect mind, body and soul in a peaceful way.

There were a few comments about it being too sexy, or taking away from the art but I disagree. This is beauty, art and I am inspired to keep up my practice.


Thursday, January 12, 2012

Happy Birthday, Happy Born day, Happy Earth Strong TO ME!

Sorry Dee I had to cut you out :) 
Instead of just telling you guys how awesome and wise I am on this my 37th birthday (You know it's true), I thought I'd share some of my birthday traditions, saying and must do/haves on this day a.k.a "The day an angel graced the earth! "

Favorite quote: 
When asked what gift he wanted for his birthday, the yogi replied:  "I wish no gifts, only presence."  ~Author Unknown

Birthday Breakfast: 
Tea and Pain au chocolate. 

Favorite response to how old I actually am: 
You need to stop lying and show me some i.d. (what can I say good black don't crack, sorry my vanilla hued folks). 

Must Do:

  • Get eyebrows done by Anastasia (costly yes, but damn it it's my BIRTHDAY)
  • Listen to my birthday mix which includes only Bill Withers, Beres Hammond and Robert Nesta Marley! Nothing but the best for me! 
  • Speak to my husband at midnight. He always sings me a song, today it was "I want to spend the night" 
  • Take a picture of the newspaper headline. This will make it easier for CJ to give me the Cosby-eque birthday party at 60. 
Must haves: 
  • Phone call from my mom asking me how it feels to be (insert age). nothing makes me giggle like that silly conversation. 
  • Calls from both of my sisters and my homies Dee and GG. Always the funniest, always the best! 
  • In the last 5 years a dance with CJ. He loves it, though he often ends up break dancing . Go figure. 
So that's it. I'm 37 and I feel awesome. I am at a place in my life where there aren't many things I want for or need. I have a family that loves and supports me. A husband and child that adore me as I do them and friends that make the worst day better. 

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Quote of the day:

You must be what it is that you’re seeking. This is a universe of attraction and energy. You can’t have a desire to attract a mate who’s confident, generous, non-judgmental, and gentle, and expect that desire to be manifested if you’re thinking and acting in nonconfident, selfish, judgmental, or arrogant ways…
~ Wayne Dyer

Reflecting on who I am.

In an effort to make some changes to this blog and what I want it to be I sat down and looked at who I am. I do this exercise on occasion, usually when I'm at a crossroad in my life. The first time, I cried. I sat in the middle of a yoga studio and I cried.  it took a knowing hand from my Yogi to calm me. He explained that often times we lose touch with who we are and our place in the universe, this exercise is a way to get back to that. 

I am 
A spiritual being
  A powerhouse
   A mother and nurturer
    A wife and confidant
     A healer
     A friend
     A daughter and granddaughter
      A giver of life
        The center of the Universe, yet graceful intertwined within it.
I am honest
    As strong as the trunk of the Baobab tree
    And as gentle as a kiss from the wind.

Most importantly I am comfortable in being who I am regardless of what others think or do. 

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Love and Hip Hop

So I've been watching Love and Hip Hop and unlike most I don't feel the need to comment on how we as a people need to do better. That's a given especially if the show is on VH1. It's 100% clear that reality TV is not about showing Black women doing big things, it's about ratchet behavior and that's why we watch. The ratchet behavior is not unique to women of color so if any other race of people want to debate I will point them to RHOBH and Mob Wives.. THE END.

Anyway once I got past the stupid fights and discussions about getting money I realized the issues highlighted on this show are what the relationship blogs cover and women deal with everyday. Most of the women watching the show have been or are currently in some of the same situations being shown, but they are cussing and tsk tsking the women on the show. Why? Because it makes the pain of dealing with your own f-ed up situation easier.

There are several characters on this show but I know for certain I have watched friends go through the trials Chrissy and Emily have gone through. Chrissy not knowing the future of her relationship because the man is caught up in being a man child, and Emily with the cheating father of her child and her misconception of what real love is... REAL ISSUES. The only difference is that there is no camera shoved in the everyday woman's face 24/7.

Even Yandy, she's in a male dominated business where on some level the men are treating her like they treat the women they sleep with, showing her little respect and that doesn't work for business.I totally understand this feeling because I work in a field where men dominate, I've just learned not to  take their BS. Yandy will learn that too, and when she starts separating business and friends she will become even more of a success. In short, I'm not saying don't voice your opinion about what's happening because that show is pure comedy gold, but don't act all surprised when the women cry or say stupid things like I love him... we've all been there and though it's TV it's still easier to lift up another woman than to bash her.

Monday, January 2, 2012

Very Superstitious

Every year before the 31st I do two things, I clean my house from top to bottom and then I cook a special meal. There hasn't been one year since I've been on my own that this doesn't happen. And though I'm sure if I didn't wash every stitch of clothing we'd still be okay I continue to do it. Old wives tales passed from generation to generation just have a way of sticking with you. So here are my New Year's MUST Do's (Thank Dee for this post). 

1. Your home must be cleaned spic and span. No one wants to bring in the new year with the last years dirt. And there is to be no sweeping until the 2nd. Why? because you sweep out the new years blessings. I will say this has become harder with a 5 year old because he is ALWAYS dropping things but I still do it. 

2. All clothes must be cleaned. I guess that follows the same thought of old dirt, new year. And as much as I hate laundry this one is definitely one I wouldn't mind giving up. 

3. Collard Greens and Hoppin' John. Collard greens bring wealth and black eyed peas bring luck in the new year. There is always a pot of collards here and this year I have to say they were magnificent but I can't get into the peas, so I am hoping the good luck will follow me anyway. 

4. The man you plan to spend the rest of your year with needs to be with you at midnight. Some say he should be walking through the door at midnight but I guess that's harder these days. 

So there it is the superstitions I live by even if logic defies. Share your superstitions in the comment section!