Tuesday, February 19, 2013

My Life and Social Media

Since my last post a lot has happened, first and most importantly I had our baby. *throws confetti * Though a little early (three weeks) it was a pretty standard natural birth with plenty of LOL moments only the Davenport Girls can bring (maybe one day I'll tell that story on here for giggles because believe me it's pretty funny.) We are all in good health and with the exception of a little sleep deprivation adjusting well to this new little person.

Before I gave birth I had a bit of a come to Jesus moment about my life and how much of it I share. My mom has been after me to limit what I post on social media, which only served as yet another annoying topic of discussion I didn't want to indulge in. But after I saw his little face and heard that first scream I knew then that I wanted to keep this part of my life a little closer to me.

When CJ was born I didn't have a blog, FB account and a Tweet was singer I loved. All of his special moments were shared with family and close friends via text and detailed emails, which I was able to control. Fast forward 6 years after being forced finally signing up, I shared a lot of pics of my family as I reconnected with old friends. I wanted to let my friends know about my family, my life and well picking up a phone to call was just so 1992 right?  Social media equaled instant contact, no waiting involved and I liked that. I missed my friends and now we were able to stay in touch despite time difference, distance and sans thousand dollar phone bills. So what's not to like!

 Then came all the crazy policy changes, allowing too much access to my life and taking control away from me as long as I exist on their sites.  These changes allowed the sites ownership of my pictures if I post them to my feed and  this lack of control of my image didn't sit well with me. So I made the decision not to give them anymore access starting with birth of this little one. I'm not saying that I won't EVER post another picture of  CJ and Le Munchkin, but I am saying I am learning to limit access. In the case of twitter I've just witnessed too many ugly comments directed at children and though I'm sure I would never be the victim of any of that I don't even want to think about it. 'Cuz if you know me, you know the lethal manner in which I would strike if someone ever came at me about my children.

I'm sure this won't sit well with many but I can't think about that right now, I can only think about what makes me happy and my family safe. So if you've been wondering why you've visited my FB page and haven't seen the new baby that's why. He's here, he's happy but his social media debut is on hold indefinitely.


12kyle said...

You know my motto..."everything ain't meant for social media!"

I think most people should/will respect your decision not to have him all over the innanet. I've put pics of my kids up but that will taper off as they grow. So, I totally understand

OG, The Original Glamazon said...

Girl girl girl I can't tell you how much I love this post...I like you like to keep some of me private...very rarely do I post pics of the things I hold near and dear...my bf and I were together for over a year before I ever shared a pic on FB and when I did I got all kinds of text saying I can't believe you shared that...lol

I always say I'm Beyonce about my business...you will only know what I want you to know!