Wednesday, October 30, 2013

In Look At Me News: Kanye West Is At It AGAIN




No it's not Chris Brown, though he's been acting the damn fool this week too. It's the constant seeker of attention and music industry idiot savant, Kanye West. 

I've made a point not to comment on his antics this year because look his existence is plagued with The Carters fabulous life, his diamond teeth, comedians making fun of him, million dollar tours and homes....Wait what am I talking about?  Kanye and his first world problems get no sympathy from me. Dude needs to stop trying to buy his way into the ultra white world of fashion and buy his way into the best therapist office he can find!  Kanye ain't been his mother passed and there doesn't seem to be one person in his circle patting their sofa and letting him rest his head on their shoulder. So I've looked passed his three year old behavior until today.... 

Kanye thought it was a good idea to yet again embarrass himself by speaking in public. This time he's comparing his "girl" Kim K to the FLOTUS. 

“There’s no way Kim Kardashian shouldn’t be on the cover of Vogue. She’s like the most intriguing woman right now. She’s got Barbara Walters calling her like everyday,” West told Ryan Seacrest in an interview on Tuesday.
West said that “collectively” he and Kardashian are “the most influential” couple in fashion – especially compared to President Barack Obama and the first lady.
"No one is looking at what [President] Obama is wearing," he said. "[And] Michelle Obama cannot Instagram a pic like what my girl Instagrammed the other day."
*SIGH* Seriously Kanye?
  • I'm not even going to get into him calling her his girl or that in praising her he reduced her to a booty shot on IG. 
  • I won't get into how  the only thing intriguing about Kim K is how she's made a fortune off of a sex tape. 
  • I won't lay into him about how he should strive for more than to just be influential in fashion because that is as fleeting as his current career. I JUST WON'T DO IT!
  • I refuse to speak on the fact that Kanye is comparing his reality star girl to a woman that spends her days with dignitaries from other countries, speaking to kids about health and just representing  for Black Women in a world that has deemed us Enemy Number One.
  • Or that we should be encouraging our young girls to want to be more like Michelle Obama, former corporate attorney and FIRST LADY OF THE UNITED STATES!  


I JUST WON'T DO IT, I HAVE TOO MANY THINGS ON MY TO DO, SO I WON'T DO IT!!!



Monday, October 28, 2013

The Gye Nyame (jean yuh-me) Empowerment Project




This weekend I had the pleasure of volunteering at The Gye Nyame Brotha 2 Brotha Youth Summit, and it was an amazing experience.  Before I get into the work done with the young brothers let me touch on the preparation done by the women.

The women were gathered an hour before the men’s workshops were to end,where we participate in what was described as a cleansing ceremony. The facilitator spoke about the need to heal as a unit before being able to stand in receipt of anyone else’s space. Each woman was directed to look at the women next to them and communicate with them. Interesting enough every woman in the room turned to each other and started chatting it up. We were all hushed quickly and given instructions that we were to do this in silence.  We were to look into the eyes of each woman and hold their gaze and listen so we could actually connect. 

Now if you know me or  have read this blog you know I have done a tone of work on my inner self but it’s always been ALONE. Yes I’ve sat in groups but only for direction, I have always been uncomfortable in groups like this. But I made a commitment to be a full fledge participant to this experience , so at my turn I held the gaze of the woman to my right it was incredible, without uttering a single word I heard her. I found myself gasping a little before I turned to meet the eyes of another woman.  This exercise has made me rethink my stance on healing as an individual first, and being prepared to help others.  I like everyone should be growing daily and telling my story is a way to help others with their stories. MAN LISTEN!

The next exercise was equally enlightening and focused on men in our lives , equally amazing. Without going into detail, it  was an emotional, tears inducing moment that allowed the women in the room to let go.  A spiritually collective *SIGH* was felt across that auditorium. 
When the men re-entered they were greeted by women ready to speak to the accomplishments they have made in their lives. Each women read from the cards provided and let them know they were enough, more than enough and that collectively we can win. I was moved (almost to tears).  
It was a beautiful experience.
           
               It was an inspirational experience.

                              It was a movement of positivity.

It was so necessary to have Black Women and Men in a room celebrating each other.

And it  was my pleasure to volunteer and I can’t wait for the Sister 2 Sister Youth Conference in March.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Parenthood 101: Siblings




Saturday morning as I prepared to pay bills, CJ volunteered to watch Le Munchkin.  They laughed and screamed for a long time, and then it got really quiet... too quiet. I got worried. CJ is a great kid and I know he wouldn't hurt his brother but every parent knows when it gets quiet you have to wonder.

I got up from my bed and quietly walked into the living room and there they were laying on the sofa. CJ had his legs slung over Le Munchkin and they were knocked out. I almost cried. I knew CJ was going to be a great big brother from the time we told him I was pregnant but I didn't think he would fall so deeply in love. Well he has, and
I am head over heels in love with both of them.


Wednesday, October 2, 2013

I Feel Your Hurt



I listened to you on the phone last night and I heard you say " I won't rack my brain about choice other people make"

I listened as you told the story over and over again each time stressing that you didn't care, but each time seeming more hurt.
HURT

As you spoke, my heart broke a little more because I've loved you long enough to know when you're hurt.

PEOPLE 

But this was more than just hurt feelings, this was you wishing they were more, that they saw you as more. More than you WERE because you've worked so hard to be a be more for THEM.

HURT

I wish I could reach through the phone and kiss away the pain, but you seemed so far away. I want you to know that your validation doesn't lie in them, it lies in you.

Hurt people may have hurt you my love......


But You Are Healing!